Foodgate

What a name of a blog post! 😂 Yet another blog post that I never even contemplated writing until the past few days. And yet here I am! LOL

So I am not exactly large in any way shape or form. I am only 5'3" and I only weigh about 60 kilograms (132 pounds). So I think I am in the healthy weight category. I don't eat a great deal and over the past 2 years I have really tried to watch what I eat, because I did get quite large while I was on an anti-psychotic medication. So I have lost over 23 kilograms (50 pounds) and I have never used food as a comfort when I am depressed etc. I might eat a bar of chocolate to cheer myself up, but I only buy the small bars, not a whole block. I also have a lot of sensory issues when it comes to food, so I don't like a lot of textures, but I am trying to learn to push past them and try the food.

Anyway where I am staying, my friend is what we would call 'large'. She is not morbidly obese, but she would be bordering on it. One of her children is also getting larger by the day and then her other child is as skinny as a rake. Anyway child 2 I will be the one I am mainly discussing, and child 2 is the one that is getting larger by the day. Child 2 is continually asking about when the next meal is, then also nagging for snacks in between meals. Child 1 has a lot of sensory issues when it comes to food, so child 1 will only eat particular foods and there isn't many that child 1 will eat. Child 1 will also only eat minimal amounts and every meal time is trying to convince child 1 to eat what is on the plate. The most child 1 has for breakfast is an up and go and I get that because I absolutely hate having to eat breakfast within probably 2 hours of waking up in the mornings. Child 2 also eats without asking so there has been times child 2 has eaten some of my food. There was a few nights when I just couldn't finish my dinner because the dog that is covered in it's own piss would come near the dinner table to eat (I don't agree with having a dogs water bowl and food bowl right next to the dinner table) and it literally makes me that nauseous that I can't finish my dinner. So I leave it on the bench and on a couple of occasions I haven't really wanted to even finish it later. What I do is put the remainder of my meal on the kitchen bench and eat it later when I can't smelly the pissy dog. So anyway a couple of times I said to child 2 that my dinner was there and child 2 could have the rest of my dinner. About 2 times child 2 has scoffed my remaining dinner down and then another time child 2 decided that it would be eaten for breakfast the next morning. Anyway, I'm eating my dinner one night and I was actually enjoying it and pissy dog was away further enough that I couldn't smell him to be nauseous. So I am eating away and child 2 says me "Don't forget to save me some of your dinner!" I think my facial expression may have said way too much because the child's mother did say that it was rude to say that and that I don't have to save any of my dinner for child 2! I do understand that child 2 is on the spectrum, but this wasn't rudeness, this was more an obsession with food. Child 2 does not stop thinking about food. And I have to say that he gets it from his Mother. She literally goes from her bed or lounge to the kitchen to eat, back to the lounge or bed and then back to the kitchen. And because of her size she is rather lazy and I seem to do way more cooking than I can tell you I want to. I actually went and bought a couple of microwave meals today when I went and got some groceries, because I am so tired of cooking and spending way more money on food than I normally would. I have done my parenting and if I want to just have toast for dinner then I should be able to. But every night it has to be meat and vegetables or meat and salad. I do get why people have issues with food, because I have really started to appreciate food over about the past 8 years. And my tastes have changed so much and I am willing to try most things now, where 8 years I would have just said no and turned my head. 

In regards to all the food issues in this place it really does need to be addressed. Child 2 is now starting to get bullied at school and I do feel that it is because of child 2's weight. And because the Mother has issues with food also, I do feel like she is enabling child 2 and is actually making matters a lot worse. Plus she is not active with these children and they literally are on their iPads when they are home. They do not go out walking anywhere, they don't walk to and from school, there is no exercise so whatsoever and she wonders why herself and child 2 are the size that they are. 

I truly am not trying to judge anyone that is large, because like I said with myself, I was large due to medications that I took for around 9 years and the weight kept on adding up. So there are many reasons why some people are large. In this case of this though, it really does come down to eating habits, laziness and lack of exercise. 

So anyway there is foodgate for you. What are your thoughts? Do you have any issues with food or weight? I'd love to hear what you think!